A child’s brain is like a sponge, the younger they are, the more information they are capable of absorbing. Some kids may intentionally copy the behaviour of their parents or role models, but what is absorbed into the subconsciousness is much harder to re-educate. One of the most important points this article will make is that parents are not always the most powerful or single point of reference in a child’s personal development. Home education is never enough, children need to be surrounded by inspiring people who can guide them.
This article will look at 6 things children learn from role models, and how these can influence their’ behaviours, personalities and future.
Do you value honesty? Do you like respectful and moral people? Whenever you promise your children something, stick to that promise no matter how hard it may seem. Give them the space they need and allow them some control over their own life, for example, allow your child to pick the clothes or colours he/she likes to wear or the sports he/she wants to learn. People who feel respected will learn how to respect themselves, and this feeling of self-respect is linked to confidence, ability to communicate, sociability, integrity and empathy.
We all know what a school playground can be like, a place where children sometimes tease and wind each other up which may lead to disagreements and falling outs. Kids are emotionally fragile and easy to influence, which means that a mean joke can lead to social exclusion and introversion.
By being positive and kind towards your child you encourage them to be open towards you. Whether he/she can be the victim or the generator of such circumstances, you will know and you will be able to correct the issue. By being kind and patient towards your children, not only will you influence them into behaving in the same way, but you indirectly help the society through the influence your child has/will have on it.
Do not offer your children everything on a silver platter. Children will learn the true value of things by working for them, and this does not only refer to material objects. Teach your children that trust and respect need to be earned, that they need to work hard to be successful or wealthy. By doing this you also help them develop a sense of responsibility and independence.
One of the sessions XLR8 courses comprise is called PB:ME (personal best me) and it encourages a different kind of competition. Health Mentors teach children to track their own progress and be in a constant competition with themselves.
This is a tricky one in the sense that, to be genuinely ambitious, your child must have a clear purpose in their mind. If they want to be an astronaut, encourage them regardless of how unlikely you feel it might be. Do not panic if your children have unrealistic dreams, because in order to become ambitious, children need to believe in themselves, and self-confidence is an outcome of how much others believe in them. Let them dream of holding the world in the palm of their hand, because if they believe it hard enough, one day they will.
Evolve Health Mentors run an exercise called “Roots to Routes” which is meant to look back at pupil’s history, what they have achieved so far in life and then divulge into what their future may look like. If you want your child’s efforts to be coordinated towards the future that best suits them, enrol them into an XLR8 course and let the professionals take care of their career orientation.
Self-confidence leads to courage, and courage is what makes us stand up for what we believe in. Positive influence can eliminate inhibition, shyness and pessimism. This section will be a special one as it will introduce a real example of how much of an impact can frequent encouragement have on a child.
Health Mentor, Jeevan Chagger, says:
“An 8-year-old boy who was extremely shy and lacked friends… really came to piece and stood out when we came to the rapping, song writing, dancing and drama. He soon began to work well with others, became a group leader and got the confidence to take part in the end of week showcase and presented some of his ideas. His parents were extremely proud of him, his mum even shed a tear. She was extremely happy that we had worked and provided him with the opportunity to be more confident. However, what really encouraged him to open up was that his mentors believed in him and his talents. Around school, he is now fairly popular, has lots of friends and is making good progress in his work”
Mental wellbeing is influenced by our own levels of happiness, confidence, self-esteem, and the relationships we have with the others. We already know how important it is for our health to be happy with our own physical appearance, be optimistic and positive. Lack of self-confidence and self-esteem tends to be transmitted to children as behavioural patterns, therefore, make sure you leave a healthy life from all perspectives. This is one of the “lessons” that your child must learn early in his/her life because nobody will be able to explain or show them how to be happy as adults.